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The main purpose of your guide is to give you well-thought-out and time-tested strategies to break free from the affair and rebuild your life in the shortest time possible. Dr. Bob Huizenga draws on his two decades plus of experience, study and research as a therapist, to give you solid, actionable advice and not theories or suppositions. So you will get the help you need to get through the affair more quickly, and make those obsessive thoughts and feelings fade until they are no more than a distant memory. However, the major purpose of this book is to get you started in the right direction and to begin acting now on significant, well-thought-out, time-tested strategies. Most studies indicate it takes two to four years to move completely through an affair, healing the feelings and reconstructing your relationships. If you study the different types of affairs, focus on the areas that apply to you and implement some of the strategies, you will cut down on that time frame significantly. More here...

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Extramarital Sex Norms of Extramarital

In every society around the world, the overwhelmingly majority of men and women marry, and married couples are expected to engage in sexual relations. Sexual activity outside marriage is also condemned in many societies. However, in a number of cultures, extramarital affairs are at least tolerated, and a majority of societies accept and even expect husbands to engage in them. Fifty-six percent of a worldwide sample of 112 societies do not officially condemn extramarital sex for males, while extramarital liaisons are condemned and may be punished in only 44 of these societies. By contrast, extramarital sex is overwhelmingly condemned for women across the world. Extramarital sex is condemned in 88 of a sample of 114 societies, while is accepted in only 12 of these cultures (Broude & Greene, 1976). As these statistics demonstrate, there is a clearly double standard when it comes to the extramarital sexual behavior of husbands versus wives. The double standard is magnified by the tendency...

Frequency of Extramarital Sexual Behavior

Norms of extramarital sexual behavior are not predictably associated with how many married husbands or wives actually engage in extramarital sex. Thus, whereas a slight majority of societies condone extramarital sex for males, extramarital sex is universal or at least common in 78 of 107 cultures and uncommon or absent in only 22 . The discrepancy between extramarital sex norms and actual behavior is even more striking in the case of women. While societies overwhelmingly condemn affairs for wives, extramarital sex is universal or common for women in 66 of 114 cultures and uncommon or absent in only 34 (Broude, 1981). The fact that men and women engage in extramarital sex despite of cultural condemnation suggests how powerful the impulse is to give into sexual temptation. Women seem to be especially motivated to conduct affairs, given that the punishment for a wife's infidelity in some societies is so extreme. Evolutionary theory suggests a reason for these patterns. For males, sexual...

Correlates of Extramarital Sex Norms

Norms regarding extramarital sex for women may be so overwhelmingly restrictive because husbands wish to avoid having their wives become pregnant by some other man. Unless a man then divorces such a wife, he will be investing time, energy, and resources in a child who is not genetically his own, a situation that evolutionary theory predicts men will vigorously attempt to avoid. In fact, infidelity is a very common reason for divorce across cultures and men are far more likely than a women to seek divorce from an unfaithful spouse (Broude, 1994). Often, societies view infidelity on the part of a wife as an infringement of the property rights of the husband. For instance, the Wogeo of New Guinea say that a man who engages in extramarital sex with someone else's wife is the same as a thief. Similarly, a woman who has sexual relations with a married man is a receiver of stolen goods (Hogbin, 1970). Norms of extramarital sex are predictably related to other sexual beliefs and practices....

Correlates of Extramarital Sexual Behavior

Extramarital sexual activity is predictably associated with other sexual attitudes and practices. Where extramarital sex for males is uncommon or absent, sexual relationships include foreplay and women tend to have a say in the choice of a marriage partner. These correlations suggest that where marital relationships are characterized by choice and intimacy, males do not look outside marriage for sexual gratification. However, extramarital sex for males is also absent in societies where female modesty is valued, rape is punished but also present, and wife-beating is common. These associations suggest that the absence of sexual activity outside marriage on the part of males reflects a certain hostility toward, or at least devaluing of, women more generally. Where extramarital sex for wives is uncommon or absent, males are likely to be sexually aggressive and even hostile in their sexual approaches to women (Broude, 1975). This set of relationships may represent a reluctance on the part...

Unilocality and Unilineality

Frayser (1985, pp. 341 ff) points out that patrilineal societies have some difficulty with women's reproduction. They need to have reproduction for their kin groups, but elevating the status of mothers is somewhat antithetical to the patrilineal principle. On the other hand, if patrilineal societies denigrate women too much, they risk having women who are not interested in having children. Patrilineal systems depend upon passing membership in kin groups through males, so it is also important for a man to know that the children his wife gives birth to are his. Frayser suggests and presents evidence to support the notion that patrilineal societies are more interested in limiting a woman's sexuality and reproduction to a particular husband by insisting on premarital and extramarital sex restrictions and by making it harder for a woman to obtain a divorce. Restrictive societies also tend to have elaborate marriage arrangements and ceremonies and honeymoons that isolate the couple.

Husband Wife Relationship

The husband-wife relationship tends to be characterized by affection and companionability, although some couples are clearly in conflict. Husbands and wives sleep in the same house in separate hammocks unless the husband is traveling. They frequently go to the garden together and eat together when food is prepared. Although the man and woman perform complementary tasks, in some areas, such as hunting and clothes washing, there is a strict division of labor. If the marriage is not satisfactory, either the husband or the wife may initiate the divorce. Children up to the age of 4 go with their mothers, and older children are distributed between the father and other kin. Infidelity is not automatically grounds for divorce however, if an affair goes on too long or if the woman becomes pregnant, then divorce may take place.

Frequency of Sex in Marriage

Attitudes toward the desirability of frequent sexual intercourse between spouses are related to a number of other beliefs regarding sexual behavior. Thus, where frequent sexual activity between husband and wife is regarded as desirable, homosexuality is accepted, love magic is absent, and extramarital sex for wives is accepted, or else it is condemned for both sexes (Broude, 1975).

Splitobject Triangles

A married woman or man who takes a lover may only be indulging in a dalliance, in which case he or she may view it as irrelevant to the marriage. But when an adulterous affair becomes a passion rather than a diversion, a split-object triangle develops with a split in valuation between the spouse and the lover, the marriage and the affair. The spouse, One man, embarked on a passionate affair, stopped sleeping with his wife. Curiously enough, she never suspected any infidelity but thought he was depressed. He began to find fault with her and she retaliated in kind. Their marriage deteriorated into little more than a continual barrage of bickering. Feeling misused, she demanded more and more material things. By this time, the husband felt quite justified in his affair he was, after all, married to a shrew. He divorced his wife, married his mistress, and sincerely blamed his wife for the demise of the marriage. According to his interpretation of past events, had she been In general it is...

Gender and Religion

The Catholic Church position on issues related to gender favors traditional gender and marital arrangements. All followers are expected to maintain themselves within the teachings of no premarital sex (to observe the sacrament of marriage), no masturbation, no condom use (or other contraceptives), no abortion, no infidelity, and no homosexuality (McCarthy & Bayer, 1984). Although non-coital sexual expressions are no longer prohibited, they are only acceptable under certain conditions (in marriage, as foreplay). Noncoital sex cannot substitute for coital activity between husband and wife. The Church's exultation of motherhood and encouragement of large families create constraints in the present society for women's economic contributions and independence outside the home.

Correlates of Attitudes Toward

Beliefs about whether sex is harmless or dangerous are predictably associated with other sexual beliefs and practices. In cultures where people believe that sex is dangerous, extramarital affairs for women are condemned and the incidence of both premarital and extramarital sex is low. Interestingly, attitudes about sex are not predictably related to beliefs about the desirability of frequent sexual activity within a marriage, so that people in a particular culture may think that sex can be harmful but nevertheless advocate frequent sexual activity between a husband and wife. It is common, however, to find taboos associated with menstruation in societies that equate sex with danger (Broude & Greene, 1976).

Triangles And The Oedipus Complex

Triangulation may be used to punish a disappointing or errant lover, or to even out the score. A husband may believe he has forgiven his wife after she confesses a prior affair, only to feel himself drawn into a love affair of his own shortly thereafter. Triangulation may also be used to re-establish a sense of gender adequacy when one's femininity or masculinity has been damaged by a competitive defeat, either erotic or non-erotic. For example, a man who has received a shattering blow at work may be more than usually vulnerable to the ministrations of his adoring secretary. Alternately, triangulation may be used to alter not one's own self-image, but one's image in a lover's eyes, with one lover hoping to pique the other's interest and coax fading love back to full intensity through the agency of jealousy. Triangulation may even be used as a self-punishment. A lover who is radiantly happy in love may experience guilt at his great good fortune, and he too may embark on a triangular...

The Erotic Appeal Of The Rival And The Attraction To Couples

While the knowledge of betrayal by one's lover causes pain, it may also generate considerable sexual excitement. This fact, as well as the occasional manifestation of a deeply buried sexual longing for one's rival, point to the contamination of a love affair by unresolved Oedipal material. In particular, homosexual longing for one's rival suggests the ongoing influence of a highly developed negative Oedipus complex along with the positive one. (This is a manifestation of bisexuality, a universal propensity.) In this case, the lover is simultaneously attracted to and jealous of both partners in the couple, just as he once was toward his parents. To the degree that triangular preoccupations are actualized in extramarital love affairs (or merely sexual ones for that matter), they are often destructive, containing, as they do, inherent fault lines and dangers. The intrinsic problems of such triangles derive from their instability, their hidden agendas, their connection to power...

Cheilanthes bonariensis

Culture and comments My love affair with xeric ferns began when I first saw this fern as Notholaena aurea in the rock garden collection at Oregon's Siskiyou Rare Plant Nursery many, many years ago. Its preference for acid soil, versus lime, makes it somewhat easier to introduce to the rock gardens and alpine houses of devoted specialists. Its cultivation is not to be confused with being easy, but when encouraged by good drainage, comparable air circulation, and protection from overhead winter wet, it can be coaxed along.

The Disenchanted Lover Falling Out Of Love

The lover, passionate though he may have been in the opening phase of a love affair, may fall out of love. Sometimes love simply seems to disappear. It fades and is replaced by apathy, boredom, or restlessness, if not resentment and rage. It can happen gradually or suddenly, as a result of recurring disappointments, with or without overt anger. Sometimes love fades for both lovers. People who think that such disenchantment is natural and inevitable, far from acknowledging the emptiness that can be experienced when it happens, tend to urge a conservative position upon the lovers, particularly married ones Don't do anything rash, Try to work it out, and so forth.

Overall Patterning of Sexual Attitudes and Practices

Cultures across the world do appear to be consistent with regard to some aspects of premarital and extramarital sexual behavior. Thus a society that is permissive regarding premarital sex for boys will also have permissive norms for girls. The same society is also likely to have high incidences of both premarital and extramarital sex for males and females. Similarly, a society that restricts premarital sex for boys will also do so for girls, and both premarital and extramarital sex will be uncommon (Broude, 1976). Interestingly, extramarital sex norms are not related to these attitudes or behaviors. Neither are premarital and extramarital sex norms and behavior predictably related to another cluster of behaviors related to sex. In particular, male concerns about or incidence of impotence, male boasting about sexual exploits, and incidence of homosexuality are all unrelated to the patterning of premarital and extramarital sex. However, these three aspects of human sexuality are related...

Husband Wife Work Activities

There is some indication that cultural patterns of allocating work are related to male-female relationships more generally. In societies where husbands and wives perform different tasks, sex is predictably viewed as dangerous, premarital sex norms for both sexes are restrictive, and extramarital sex norms for males are permissive. Division of labor by sex is also correlated with male sex aggression. So the tendency to segregate the sexes, including husbands and at work, seems to reflect an overall attitude of caution and even hostility regarding intimate and committed opposite-sex interaction. Where husbands and wives perform the same tasks, people choose their own marriage partners as opposed to having their future spouses chosen by thirdly parties. Thus, where marriages are based upon personal preference, spouses organize their work days in such a way as to be able to spend time together (Broude, 1983, 1987).

Courtship and Marriage

Legally, divorce can be initiated by the man or the woman. In practice, however, divorce is usually initiated by the man because there are fewer consequences for a divorced man than for a divorced woman. There are a variety of acceptable reasons for a man to initiate a divorce the wife is unable to bear children, she is a bad housekeeper, she does not get along well with her in-laws, he is in love with somebody else, or he suspects her of infidelity. Women are more likely to initiate divorce in situations where the husband drinks excessively, physically abuses her, or does not provide for the family. Before resorting to divorce, a Kazakh man must consider his parent's opinion and the personal difficulty of living without his children. If the woman is considered to be a good wife, mother, and daughter-in-law, his parents will encourage him to stay in the marriage. If she is considered to be a bad wife, mother, and daughter-in-law, his parents will likely support his decision to...

Transference Love Falling In Love In Therapy

She plays the role of a very spoiled rich young woman, stricken with mysterious fainting spells. During the course of her medical treatment, she falls in love with the neurologist and, ultimately, he with her. In falling in love and struggling with what turns out to be an incurable brain tumor, Davis is transformed from a bratty immature woman into a mature, happy, and feeling one. Similarly in real life, many aging or ailing men fall in love with their nurses. The latest well-known figure to have done so is the novelist Joseph Heller, who fell in love with his nurse while recuperating from a neurological disease. Thomas Merton, while a cloistered monk, did the same with a nurse he met when he was ill. Some men have been known to disinherit their families in favor of their nurses, even when close to death and not likely to achieve a fully realized, mutual love. (Closely related are those love affairs between aging men and their housekeepers among them one thinks...

The Aftermath Of Unhappy Love

And sometimes out of the profound shattering that can take place, there is an inner regrouping, a creative surge, even from the depths of despair. One of my dearest friends, a great scholar, wrote his finest and most personally cherished essay as he emerged from a deeply wounding love affair in which he had been rendered impotent. As a consequence of what he had suffered, he felt he had achieved a new intellectual clarity and a much deeper insight into life and into him Even during the course of unhappy or problematic love, there may be a creative surge. Emma Goldman's most creative period is said to have coincided with her tempestuous love affair with Ben Reitman. Goldman Red Emma as she was known was an anarchist and an advocate of free love, a fiercely political person. While the outlines of her life have been well known to political people and feminists for many years, her name, and biography, are better known today because of the discovery in 1975 of the love letters exchanged...

Reproduction in Hindu Religious

These procedures amount to methods of selecting marriage partners according to biological suitability, although the biological traits selected for concern may not seem very appropriate today. Marriage is discouraged if partners are not biologically and astrologically suited. In India, marriages have been and still are arranged by parents on the basis of social, economic, and reproductive suitability. Romantic interest is at best a very secondary consideration. The entire basis of marriage in Hinduism is eugenic, but the factors felt to predispose favorably to suitable offspring are quite different from modern Western ones. Marriage in Hinduism exists to ensure offspring and perpetuate family distinction and caste separation. These laws were intended to regulate reproduction rather than sexuality. Sexual liaison outside of marriage and across caste, though not approved of, was not considered wrong so long as no offspring resulted.

Cultural And Environmental Influences On Handedness

Many common phrases in the English language demonstrate our culture's negative view of left-hand-edness. For instance, a left-handed compliment is actually an insult. A son from the left side of the bed is illegitimate. A left-handed marriage is no marriage at all, but refers to an unconsecrated or adulterous sexual liaison, such as in the phrase a left-handed honeymoon with someone else's husband. Thus, a left-handed wife is actually a mistress. A left-handed diagnosis is wrong and left-handed wisdom is a collection of errors. To be about left-handed business is to be engaged in something unlawful or unsavory. Sailors speak of ships that are left-handed, meaning that they are unlucky or wrong in some way. It is interesting to note that there is not one positive phrase to be found in the language regarding left or left-handed.''

The Transformational Potential Of Transference Love

This surely appeared to have been the case with one of Jung's early patients. A love affair between Jung and Sabina Spielrein has recently come to light. Its history has been reconstructed by an Italian analyst, Aldo Car-otenuto, who accidentally came into possession of Spielrein's diaries and letters. As a young woman Spielrein is reported to have suffered from either a schizophrenic disturbance or a severe hysteria with schizoid features and she was hospitalized in Zurich. What follows are the bare bones of what is known of Spielrein, her treatment with Jung, and their romance. It's unclear at what point in time the love affair between Jung and Spielrein blossomed. Carotenuto surmises from the correspondence between Jung and Spielrein that Jung probably realized he was in love with Spielrein by the beginning of 1908. It's also unknown whether or not the love affair was ever consummated sexually. Carotenuto thinks not, but Bettelheim, as he states in his introduction to Carotenuto's...

Correlates of Premarital Sex Norms

Premarital sex norms are also predictably found alongside other customs and beliefs about sex. Where attitudes toward premarital sex are restrictive, people tend not to talk about sex. Homosexuality and extramarital sex for females are condemned, and in fact women do not typically have extramarital affairs. Societies with restrictive premarital sex norms are also more likely to practice love magic, and marriages tend to be arranged by third parties (Broude, 1975).

Marriage and Other Aspects of Male Female Interaction

Interestingly, patterns of marital interaction are not related to certain other features of male-female interaction. Thus there is no predictable connection between husband-wife day-to-day interaction, mode of choosing marriage partners, honeymoon customs, beliefs about the desirability of frequent sexual activity in marriage, frequency of premarital or extramarital sex for males or females, incidence of or concern about impotence, attitudes toward or frequency of homosexuality, male sexual aggression, rape, or frequency of divorce. There is one exception to this overall pattern. Husband-wife eating arrangements are predictably associated with honeymoon customs and divorce, so that where spouses eat together honeymoon customs are absent and divorce is relatively rare, while where spouses eat apart honeymoon customs are present and divorce is more common. However, the overall lack of a connection between

Attainment of Adulthood

Initiation offered novices only a little guidance about adult behavior. However, they were admonished to avoid adultery and practice birth spacing. Upon the attainment of adulthood, men and women are expected to be busy with adult activities, which are almost always gender segregated. Men tend to gather in cult houses and related ritual spaces unless otherwise engaged in occasional subsistence and work activities. Women are responsible for daily fishing, preparing meals, and maintenance of the household.

Gender Roles in Economics

The necessity of sexual desire for the continuance of society brought with it jealousy, worry, and adultery, which caused numerous social problems. Oral history documents that in the last underworld men and women disagreed about important aspects of their joint lives. The powers of sexual attraction, in one form or another, played a fundamental role in the initial dispute that took place between First Man and First Woman (O'Bryan, 1956, pp. 6-7 Yazzie, 1971, p. 28).

Gender Related Social Groups

The family is structured around and relies upon the presence and active participation of both parents. Divorce is taboo and discouraged in Armenia except in cases where there is an extremely abusive husband or when a wife is caught having an extramarital affair. Until recently, most married couples in urban areas lived with the parents of the groom. If there was more than one son

Husband Wife Relationships

Husbands and wives were expected to respect and support one another, socially and with complementary contributions to the household. Neither was permitted adultery, although men's extramarital sexual adventuring could be condoned and polygyny allowed men to keep more than one wife. Because polygyny ideally involved sisters married to one man, sisters- and brothers-in-law not only were permitted, but were expected, to joke lewdly with one another. Otherwise, propriety required avoidance of lewd-ness, even of telling obscene Napi stories, in the presence of in-laws. Men and their mothers-in-law showed extreme

Case Illustrations A Mr A

C. was involved in an extramarital affair that was not going well. She wanted to preserve and rehabilitate her marriage, but divorce was a possibility. She felt she could only work out her conflicting issues if the affair would remain a secret that would be divulged only by her if at all, after due consideration and not by intrusion into her therapy records.

Cultural Construction of Gender

Humans can also punish those who do not follow Maya teachings. Until recently, Maya community leaders would be in charge of a process for educating wrongdoers. Elders would speak to the person three times to try to reorient them. If this was unsuccessful, an increasing series of public whippings would be the next step. If improvement was still not seen, banishment from the community was the last resort. Historical documentation of pre-Columbian Maya punishments for rape or infidelity reveal even more drastic pressure to deter sexual misbehavior from disturbing community harmony. If, for example, a man was found guilty of rape by the council of elders, he was given two choices to publicly mutilate his genitalia, making it impossible for him to commit this crime again, or to be publicly killed. If the crime was infidelity, the man was always considered the guilty party, and the woman's husband was brought to the center of town, where he held a large rock above the other man's head as he...

Dominantsubmissive Adaptations Among Couples

Whether dominant or submissive in such relationships, the self is diminished, and the assertion or enactment of power in love will most often lead to mutual resentment, anger, and even aggression. Nonetheless, while the psychological maneuvers of power can dilute the purity of love, on occasion they also stabilize love. It would be naive not to acknowledge that some of the most intimate and intense love affairs are generated within the context of manifest power relationships, bondings which draw their passionate intensity from the highly charged mix of love and power.

Explaining Sex Differences in Reproductive Behavior

Now, in those few mammalian species in which the young are so helpless that they need the efforts of both parents to survive, males tend to pursue a mixed or variable strategy of caring for their putative offspring but also seeking additional sex partners. Thus, even in mammals with paternal care, the male always provides less care than the female. Males can pass on their genes with a minimum of effort, if the female is able to bear and nurture their common offspring. Therefore male mammals are more inclined to seek extra-pair copulations, to seek sexual variety, whereas females have less to gain repro-ductively by pursuing multiple sexual liaisons. They can only have one litter at a time. infidelity occurs with some frequency (Baker & Bellis, 1995). Women's sexual jealousy, on the other hand, is most strongly aroused by the image of her mate deserting her for another woman and withdrawing his paternal support. It is important not to exaggerate these sex differences. Men are...

Religious Traditions B Roman Catholic Perspectives

The following is a revision and update of the first edition entry Abortion Roman Catholic Perspectives by John R. Connery. The Roman Catholic tradition has always treated abortion as a serious sin. Yet Catholic teaching on abortion has not always centered on the right to life of the individual fetus, nor has it always viewed all abortion as homicide. For several centuries, early abortion in particular was characterized more as a sexual sin than as killing, and was condemned as an interference in the natural outcome of the reproductive process, often assuming as its context an illicit sexual liaison.

Antigenic variation in lentiviruses

Extensive genetic heterogeneity of HIV isolates from infected individuals has also been observed, and may provide evidence for antigenic drift in vivo. Genetically diverse viruses, or 'quasispecies', are produced in infected individuals due to the infidelity of the viral reverse transcriptase. Recent studies have shown that the evolutionary dynamics displayed by these heterogeneous virus populations in vivo is consistent with adaptive evolution. Also, antigenic variants of HIV have been isolated in cell culture using a molecularly cloned virus and sera from an immune individual. Host neutralizing antibodies appear to be at least one of the selective pressures responsible for the emergence of antigenic variants. However, other

Historical Development

(9 21), condemnations of magical drugs (pharmakeia) associated with various forms of immorality, including promiscuity and lechery, may very likely extend to abortifacients. The connection is made clear in two early Christian texts, the Didache and the Epistle to Barnabas. 'You shall not kill. You shall not commit adultery. You shall not corrupt boys. You shall not fornicate. You shall not steal. You shall not make magic. You shall not practice medicine (pharmakeia). You shall not slay the child by abortions (phthora). You shall not kill what is generated. You shall not desire your neighbor's wife' (Didache 2.2) (Noonan, p. 9). Contraceptive and abortifacient drugs, as well as infanticide, were certainly used widely in the ancient world, not only to conceal sexual crimes but also to limit family size and conserve property. Early Christian authors such as Tertullian, Jerome, and Augustine in the Western church, and Clement of Alexandria, John Chrysostom, and Basil in the Eastern...

Other Cross Sex Relationships

If the behavior of a spouse suggests interest in a person of the opposite sex, or if insufficient attention is given to one's spouse by not carrying on one's obligations to the domestic economy or caring for one's spouse, this results in disputes and accusations of sexual infidelity. Adultery does occur, but it is infrequent. This brings down the same ritual dangers as any illicit intercourse. It does not always result in divorce. However, pigs are required from both offenders for a sacrifice to remove the ritual heat. Large payments of gongs and brassware are made to the offended spouses by those caught in adultery.

Misidentification Bias and Error in Molecular Methods

Investigation, from selection bias in culture and amplification reactions, poor quality assurance, sequence infidelity, misleading electrophoresis and sequence data, genetic mutations and rearrangements, and interpretation of the laboratory, ecological, and clinical significance of results. A large proportion of the molecular tests conducted in clinical laboratories are for mycobacteria and HIV and use commercially prepared kits that have been carefully validated and require appropriate internal controls. Testing for food pathogens more often relies on in-house methods, and more thought may be needed to ensure that quality is adequately controlled and assured.

Gender over the Life Cycle

As puberty and adolescence came along, responsibilities, especially for girls, increased. Boys worked with their mothers or senior male relative (not father or brother), but their participation was casual and uncertain. Girls might already be married and living with their in-laws, or under the careful and watchful eye of their jealous and possessive fathers. A great deal of time and energy, especially for girls, was consumed by the numerous love affairs they conducted, despite the ideal of female virginity (see Sexuality ).

Communications In Group Or Family Therapy

When therapy includes more than one individual, as in group and family therapy, clients have a right to know in advance, as part of the informed consent process, any limitations of privacy, confidentiality, or privilege affected by the presence of more than one client. For example, if a clinician is providing family therapy, will he or she keep confidential from other family members information conveyed in a telephone call from a minor son that he is using drugs, from a minor daughter that she is pregnant, from the father that he is engaging in an extramarital affair and plans to leave his wife, or from the mother that she has secretly withdrawn the family's savings and is using it to gamble

Early Protestant Views of Abortion

Martin Luther's and John Calvin's theological and moral reforms were shaped by their reconceptions of both the meaning of Christian life and Christian ritual practice. Neither could be said to have proposed shifts in the foundational notions of human nature embedded in late medieval Christianity. Traditional notions of human nature, including gender and human species reproduction, were not in dispute and did not shift at the time of the Reformation. What is notable among Protestant reformers is the paucity of comment on any questions about human sexuality and reproduction, including abortion. Martin Luther, a prolific preacher and writer, did not mention abortion at all. Had he done so, he likely would have presumed its moral wrongness because he was educated as an Augustinian monk and was learned in the available theological texts of the period, including especially Sentences by the twelfth-century theologian Peter Lombard, which contained collations of opinions on abortion by...

Attitudes and Cognitive Dissonance

In fact, self-perception theory arrived on the scene just as social psychology's love affair with dissonance theory was waning (Aronson, 1992). It was intended as a substitute. Shortly I will discuss the conflict between self-perception and dissonance interpretations, and some potential resolutions to the conflict. A fairly leisurely consideration of the self-perception versus dissonance controversy is warranted because, first of all, one of the origins of self-perception theory was in this controversy. The second reason is that the number of dissonance-inspired studies is truly vast, and if even a portion of these actually reflect self-perception processes, we will have found substantial additional support for self-perception theory. However, before confronting the theoretical disagreement between dissonance and self-perception theories, a brief reminder of the kinds of experiments we are talking about seems useful.

Rivalrous Triangles

And such vengeful feelings can be carried to extreme lengths. One beautiful young woman's rivalry with the other woman outlived her erotic longing for the lover. One week she groomed herself with unusual attention in order to look particularly stunning in anticipation of going to a professional convention, where she was anticipating seeing her former lover. A year before, while passionately in love with him, she had discovered an infidelity, and after a heated confrontation, they had split he to embark on a live-in relationship with the other woman. Ever since, she had harbored a fantasy of revenge. She no longer wanted him back, but she wanted him to do to the other woman what had been done to her. The other woman, not her former lover and betrayer, had become the object of her hatred. She went to the convention and engineered her triumph. She slept with her former lover in his hotel room and managed to pick up the phone when his girlfriend called. The new girlfriend acted on cue she...


In contemporary society, there are two types of divorce. The first is traditional and includes leaving the children with the husband's family. The second type is through the American legal system and involves going through the courts and accepting whatever decision about the placement of children is mandated by the court. Either husband or wife can initiate this process. While a few divorces do take place, divorce is still uncommon in the communities. The reasons for divorce include infidelity, problems with alcohol, and problems with abusiveness. These same problems often precipitate divorce in other American families.

Unconventional Love

There are at least three kinds of love toward which observers of love are particularly harsh adulterous love, heterosexual love across a significant age discrepancy, and homosexual love. Adulterous love affairs draw fire not only because of the envy all love evokes but because adulterous love poses some danger to the established order. It threatens the spouse, the children, and the family of one or both of the lovers. It may also be injurious to an unmarried lover because he may ultimately be denied the privilege of concretizing his love in the external world. Moreover, even if they are not themselves hurt by the adulterous relationship, many married people feel adulterous love as a threat to their own marriages, raising the possibility that they, too, might be betrayed. One woman's response to a well-known divorce illustrates how one's moral judgments are sometimes linked to one's own situation. She reacted to Nelson Rockefeller's divorce and subsequent marriage to Mar-garetta Fitler...

The Rejected Lover

Rejection presents itself in many and varied forms. The lover may be rejected during the early stages of a love affair, or long after, when passion has been institutionalized in marriage. The rejection may be abrupt (as, for example, when the beloved suddenly announces she has fallen in love with someone else and is leaving) or, more often, gradual. The first clues may be no more than small changes in love-making or conversation. Lovers who are attuned to each other develop ways of communicating nuances of meaning. They can convey secret or subtle messages to each other even in crowded rooms via a code known only to them. As one of them withdraws, this subtle process is undermined. The impending rejection is heralded by a new tone of voice, or the use of a given name instead of the customary term of endearment. In the beginning, the slights are often small, perhaps acts of omission rather than commission. A year later, his wife finally told him the truth that she was in love with...

Ambivalent Surrender

This is frequently the operative mechanism when an affair is utilized in order to save a marriage, and explains why the meaning of an extramarital affair is not always what it appears to be. Though sometimes it is a search for an alternative, and as such a threat to a marriage which is already seriously compromised, at other times an affair serves as an equalizer which gives the lover a renewed sense of autonomy, and thereby allows the marriage to continue. This is the fundamental mechanism in one of the most commonly observed love relationships, the see-saw affair, in which first one and then the other of the lovers appears unilaterally head-over-heels in love with an unresponsive partner. Only when the lovesick partner begins to withdraw does the other dare yield to his own impulse to surrender. These love affairs appear peculiar to outsiders, but it is the very lack of simultaneity that allows the lovers turns at surrender. The participants themselves appear to suffer, but they are...

Quarrels and Tests

Most lovers mark the occasion of their first quarrel. In the beginning of the love affair they marvel at the absence of acrimony or argument, assuming this to be the natural result of their perfect harmony. After the first quarrel, however, they breathe a sigh of relief. They have survived


Separate in subordinate relationships with adult males who protect them when the group is attacked. Tiger (p. 190) believe that it is the lonely deviant individual who rapes. Crucial to a sociobiological approach is the notion that males enhance their reproductive success by copulating with many females and preventing other males from copulating with those same females. Females are thought to enhance their reproductive success by selecting the strongest male protector and engaging in an exclusive relationship with that male. Such arguments do not account for cultural diversity, the facts of rape, or the sexual behavior of female primates. Feminist critics remind us that for a genetic propensity for forced sex to have evolved, there must be a high probability that rapists impregnate their victims. Reviewing evidence on the risk of pregnancy from rape, Ellis (1989, pp. 46-49) found that 3 of rapes are reported to result in pregnancy. Rapes involving several rapists or child-abuse cases...


What are male and female attitudes toward sexuality generally (i.e., is it natural, healthy, dangerous, polluting, only for reproduction) Do attitudes toward, and practices of, premarital sex and extramarital sex differ for males and females Do they change over the life cycle How does the cultural conception of male sexuality differ from the cultural conception of female sexuality To what degree is modesty about the body required in the society When is modesty expected and does it vary by gender To what degree is expression of sexuality allowed or not allowed in childhood, adolescence, and adulthood Does it vary by gender or by class How does the society deal with expressions of cross-sex identification, cross-dressing, etc. How does the society treat male and female homosexuality

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